The Transition to ParenthoodAfter Pregnancy Loss & Infertility

Many people believe that once they finally bring home their baby, the grief, anxiety, and uncertainty of pregnancy loss or infertility will disappear. For many parents, however, the transition to parenthood brings tremendous joy alongside unexpected fear, sadness, guilt, emotional exhaustion, or a lingering sense that something could still go wrong. You may love your baby deeply while finding yourself constantly worried about their safety. You may struggle to sleep because you’re repeatedly checking on them. You may feel guilty for experiencing happiness while still grieving babies who are no longer here. Or you may simply wonder why becoming a parent doesn’t feel the way you expected after everything you’ve been through. These reactions are far more common than many parents realize, and they make sense in light of your experiences.

Parenthood Can Hold Both Joy and Grief. One of the most challenging aspects of becoming a parent after pregnancy loss or infertility is discovering that joy and grief often exist together. You may celebrate your baby’s milestones while mourning the child who is missing. You may experience tremendous gratitude while still carrying fear. You may feel hopeful about the future while remembering years of infertility or previous pregnancies that ended far too soon. These emotions are not contradictory. They are a reflection of loving deeply after profound loss.

Therapy for Individuals and Couples. Pregnancy loss and infertility affect entire families. Partners often enter parenthood carrying different emotional experiences. One partner may become increasingly anxious while the other copes by focusing on daily responsibilities. Couples frequently find themselves grieving differently, communicating less effectively, or struggling to understand each other’s reactions. I provide therapy for both individuals and couples navigating: Parenthood after pregnancy loss, Parenthood after infertility or IVF, Pregnancy after loss, Postpartum anxiety, Relationship changes after becoming parents, Communication and intimacy, Strengthening attachment and connection within the family

My approach is grounded in attachment theory, relational psychotherapy, emotion-focused therapy, and trauma-informed care. Rather than focusing only on symptom reduction, therapy offers a place where your emotions can be understood with curiosity and compassion rather than fear or judgment. Together we work to: process unresolved grief and reproductive trauma, better understand and tolerate difficult emotions, rebuild trust in yourself and your body, strengthen your relationship with your baby, deepen emotional connection with your partner, restore a healthier sense of identity and self-esteem, and develop a more secure relationship with yourself and those you love. Healing does not mean forgetting your losses. It means integrating those experiences into your life in a way that allows them to become part of your story without continuing to define every moment of your present.